Autistic son

[Charmaine]

I have a 13 year old autistic son. Now when he was small and very cute i could handle the situation but now that he's growing up and there is lots of changes in the development i think i'm faced with more challenges than him. I know that God comes through for me time and time again but just maybe i need to get much closer to him. Please pray for us.

[Charmaine]

Hi Wanda

This has been a very LONG summer holiday! Peter is home weekends and holidays only but this hoiday is about 6 weeks long. Just imagine not being able to communicate and express your feelings. He loves music and would sit and listen to it for hours. That love has extended to drumming and lately i have noticed this great passion for drums (the ones with symbols used in church). I am now searching for a second hand set.

Unfortunately I do not have a big support and as he's growing up now, he basically tags along with mom. When school start there will be much more structure.

In this new year i will remain focus and look to God for a HUGE miracle. I trust that Peter's creation has been perfect, though it seems that the formation is impaired

God Bless

[Janie P. Bess]

Charmaine, I believe God wants Peter to have a drum set. Look in the news paper under the Give away section under miscellaneous for sales or lisitngs for Garage sales. The Lord told me to tell you this. Just trust HIm, this may be an outlet for Peter. he may end up being a drummer for a band. I believe there is a reason for him enjoying playing the drums. It is therapeutic. he may be a musician one day. Jsut keep looking for a set. Don't give up. Pray to Jesus, He answers prayer. Who knows,
Some one may donate a set to you if they know about Peter. Tell your support group and his rehabilitation counselor. You will be surprised. God is able and I pray someone gives Peter a set of drums in the Holy name of our Father.our Lord and Savuour, Jesus Christ.

Amen

Your friend,

Janie

[amages5]

You can also check your local freecycle you will be surprised at the people that no longer have use for items you may need.

[Janie P. Bess]

Charmaine, Just a little advice from one mother of a disabled child to another.

You are doing the right thing by trusting In Our Father, but I have to tell you as a mother of a Deaf-Blind son,
God sent me a support in the form of a neighbor, friend, family member and the counselor.
Whenever you can, find a support group for parents of autistic children that can help you release your feelings frustrations, anger, and disappointments. God is there with you.

You never know who He will send to help you.
You must step out in Faith. Keep talking to God, tell him your fers, your expectations.

Check the web for groups of parents who have autistic children/teens.

God will do the rest...


If you need any help or just want to talk, let me know.
I am praying for your son and the rest of you family as well. my email is [e-mail]


God Bless you,


Janie

[Charmaine]

Thank you Janie for your words of encouragement. I do realise that God wants me to do something for Him. I was stopped in a mall once by a very despondenr grandmother, after I shared with her on how I handle and approach issues, she was very uplifted in her spirit as we separated. Please pray that God must move me top that place where I have the courage to just step out.

Thanks for you personal e mail address - I will chat to you soon.

[amages5]

I joined the Autism Speaks Ning, it's similar to this except it's for parents, newly diagnosed and teachers of children with autism.

[Janie P. Bess]

Good for you! This is just one of many ways to find out new resources, how to handle situations or to help others too.
God is blessing you --even now! You may not feel like it sometimes but I can truly tell you, I felt alone and discouraged once but the Lord has opened my eyes to a new way of understanding and acceptance to whatever He brings my way.
I just say "Thank you Jesus for my trials, thank you Jesus for helping me find a way to solve them Thank you Jesus for putting me through my own unique situations so that one day I can help somebody else who is going through similar situations, Thansk you giving me the prayer and the wisdom to know that You are in control and no harm will befall me or my family uas long as I trust you.Father.

God is a healing God. One day, they will have a cure for autism, jus tlike they found ways to help the blind- deaf with new technology, it can happen .. We just have to keep believing and trusting AlMight God.
In the Holy Bible, Matt 5:1-6 (NKJV)
1 Jesus seeing the multitudes, went up high in the mountain and when He was seated, His disciples came to Him.
2 Then he opened His mouth and taught them, saying:

3 Blessed are the poor in spirit for theirs is the kingdom of heaven,

4 Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted,

5 Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth.

6 Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted,

Everything is going to be just fine. Just wait and see!


God Bless you, and keep up the good work. In Jesus name.

[amages5]

Thanks Janie, when my son was first diagnosed with autism I read your article and I was truly blessed. I started to look at the diagnosis from a different aspect and continue to speak what God says about my children. Continue...God is using you to bless others around you. Our test, trials and mountains are not just for us but they are there to be a blessing to others.

[Janie P. Bess]

Thanks Charmaine,
I appreciate that. It is just confirmation to what God's purpose is for me. He will use you and your son. . Out there somewhere ia another mother with a small child who sufferes with Autism, You will be able to encourage thm. I beleive that is your purpose now.
I have to tell you a true story of wrhat happened shortly after Visions was published.
I got a call from a young woman "Mary" in Southern California telling me she had taken her sister's copy of my book, titled Visions, to read on the plane when she visited California.
She read the story and after reading it, she sent it to a young girl whose child was in her special daycare. when he was just an infant.
This young lady's son was born deaf-blind also!
Once she read "Visions", she wanted to talk to me so the lady called her sister to find out how she could get in touch with me because this young mother wanted to speak to me.
I did give my number to this young mother and we talked for a long time. She was going through similar things I had experienced when I was young mother of a disabled child.. I prayed with her, gave her some advice and a list of resources.. Amazingly, this information I gave her was the same information I had struggled and fought for! Through the hard times and misinformation I learned so much!

So the Lord let me use this same thing I struggled with, to give hope and encouragement to someone else. Had I not expereinced what she had, I wouldn't have understood. .
Tears streamed down my fac as I told her how to approach the doctors, what to say, who she could contact to get help from, etc;

I could tell she was grateful yet probably overwhelmed by all this information I gave her. I was so happy to be able to help her! What a blessing from God! Hallelujah! Praise His Holy Name!
But I wasn't doing it for me but for a little boy and his mother who could be saved from a lot of headaches deaing with the "system" who once ignored our disabled children.and adults alike. This sweet young mother would not have to cry and beg for assistance. She would be spared what me and others in the 60's and 70's went through before finding the help needed for his physical and educational needs. Her little son would be able to have the proper medcial care needed and he would receive the proper teachers and professionals to help them.
I thank God for what He took me through because I could see why now. Here was another young woman with a child with the same disabilities as my son needing support and encouragement. Just like someone gave me when was going through. I thank God I was able to retun theblessings to a mother over 6000 miles away yet, with the help of God, someone mailed her Visions.That was a true confirmation from God! , It took me 5 years to write it and 2 more to get it published. Now, I know why I was obsessed with writing about my son and me, Now I know why God used me-- so that one day, I would give a testimony of His Goodness and Mercy to others in similar situations. Glory to His name!
God bless and keep you and Peter, Charmaine.
Until the next time,

Janie



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[Robin Tramble]

Hello,

My dear sister Charmaine. I cover you and yours in prayer. You have such a beautiful name. My 23 year old daughter's name is Sharmaine, she just graduated from Howard University and is in France as I'm' typing this.

I stumbled upon this so I know that in obedience I am to post for the next woman that may come this way.
I have a 17 year old son who was diagnosed with high functioning autism. I realized a little while back
that I was in denial. When I saw tweets, heard stories I empathized but wasn't connected. I heard a story
on the radio and I couldn't believe the swelling of my emotions as she began to communicate.

I asked Father God why years back and continued with I defended the children in school when my friends made
fun of them so why my child. I heard in my spirit, it is because of your love and compassion that I entrusted
your son to you and your husband. I entrusted you to raise him in a God fearing home, to have confidence and
reach for me. I then realized I was a glory pusher. God enjoys receiving glory and all glory has been given
to God for the great wonders in our son's life. I also know that if it weren't for the hand of God on my son
it could have been worse. How do we know that the weapon that was formed was for our son to be still born, or
not to make it at all and God allowed "autism." He didn't put this on our children it was allowed.
The weapon was formed but it did not prosper.

We have experienced awful times as I'm sure many of you have. We have experienced him running off and not knowing
where he was all day until past midnight. I won't go into any more detail.

This is a little long, however, I feel that some woman of God is going to stop by and be blessed. I could sit down,
pity myself, lose hope, wallow in distress but I move forward because my passion is Father God.
"What pleases Him.... pleases me." You may not see His hand in the midst of your circumstances , however, if you keep seeking His face His hand will be there. Exalt Jehovah Shammah the God who is always there!

Love in Christ,

Robin

[Janie P. Bess]

Robin, Thanks for the inspiring message to Charmaine!
I believe God uses us through our experiences. How can you give a testimony if you haven't ever been through a test? If your life hasn't been tested, then how can you understand another person's grief and sorrow. We sometimes grow angry with our father because we figure that their feelings toward their disabled chillld
With God's help, through your experiences, you can be an expert advisor for others on raising a child with autism. .. Thanks be to God for giving you the strength to be honest and unselfish enough to share your experiences with others about your son. It takes courage to admit that we or our children have problems or are experiencing difficulties-- but look what you have done! Thank you Jesus! Robin, you have been a blessing to mny!

Janieo !
Robin, He allowed you to let it go and let God. I am sure you will be a great help to Charmaine!!
God Bless you, and you family, Robin!

Janie

[Charmaine]

Hi Robin

Thank you so much for this inspiring note. I am more than blessed!

Right in the beginning when he was diagnosed, a friend faxed me a note as encouragement and it went like this:
This is God speaking " I've searched the whole wide world for a mother to take care of this child and I (God) have selected you(Charmaine).

This helped tremendously in the beginning just knowing God is with me ,He is there.

We went through lots of things including running away.( That's because he's hyperactive). I got so used to this that my family would say I 'm so slow and far to relaxed little did they know that I new - God will always take care of him.
That's the kind of TRUST I have in God. He has not failed me once.

Some days we are low in our spirit but when I think of HIS goodness, HIS grace,HIS mercy, it cannot be compared.

Love

Charmaine